venus_gal1 wrote:omg thats horrible, i have been around autistic kids before, and I'm sorry but i absouluty hate them, and i'm sorry but to me they are the worst. Besides the kid i was around was a total jerk, too. Bleh, but i hope you at least get a new game, if it will make you feel any better.
As the mother of an autistic child, I have to tell you I'm horrified and appalled at your total ignorance.
It makes me wonder: my son rides the short bus, but your total lack of compassion, intelligence, and understanding makes me think that perhaps the school district got it wrong.
I also wonder at the intelligence of your parents raising such a fool.
I can go on and tell you many more things, but I'd be wasting my breath. Bottom line here, is, before you shoot off your mouth think about what you say. Thank you.
I'd like to say the same for you. Attacking someone like that is not ok either. You can't really help how you feel on certain issue especially when that's your only experience to it. I'm sure there are issues you know nothing about but have an opinion on as well. Now there's nothing wrong on trying to express your side but I found this post to be rather on the offensive and attacking. I wonder how you were before you had your autistic kid. Don't you think you have a different and more understanding then someone who's just seen a kid who happens to be autistic and happens to be a naughty kid.
I have great respect for those who work with autistic kids because that's a level of patience I don't know that I could achieve on a regular basis. And I have even more respect for those who treat them as though their real people inside and actually sit down with them and try to show them right and wrong, but the fact is there's alot of parents (usually the ones you'll run into) who think that autistic kids are not kids and should be let to get whatever they want and really does the kid more harm and further separates them from everyone else because they dont learn the social skills they need because of it and dont learn right and wrong
now there are tons of normal kids as well that just get their way and know how to work their parents and what not but when an autistic kid does it and that number being less of what you run into you might get the idea that autistic kids are all like that, instead of the real truth that deep down there are good kids and bad kids or good moments and bad moments (just as there are for everyone)
but calling someone a fool and insulting their parents and insulting their intelligence and morals is not teaching tolerance it's just showing a greater divide
teach instead of attack, i understand that you're a mother and you see that as an attack on your baby and you have to defend that and tahts a great thing but doing it in a better manner will help everybody including you and your son
i will say no more on the issue because this is harvest moon boards not a place for subjects of this sort of matter but i just had to say that attacking people is not going to help and definitely has no place on the board even less then talking about such a thing would go
Sorry Xirila, but I'm going to continue to stick to what I said. My son is severely autistic and he's not a brat, he's severe. It sickens me to see the level of ignorance. It's up to the parents to teach a child more tolerance, and obviously, there was no tolerance in this case. They raised a fool.
I respect you trying to tell me as a mom I should be "more tolerant." No, I shouldn't be, not when I'm defending an entire group of people who will eventually take over an entire generation. There is a wide range of people on the autistic spectrum. They are NOT brats. They simply canNOT help themselves with their OCD, which is a trait that shows up in nearly every autistic person.
Now, in real life, I am an autistic advocate, and I speak on behalf of everyone on the spectrum. I'm not going to sit by quietly and watch someone attack a group of people who are loving, intelligent, and above all, driven. You are right, this IS a board for HMDS, and I love the game. It never should have been brought up in the first place. I stand by what I said though, because half of them can't even defend themselves.
Also, asking me a question about how I was before is a bit amusing. I'm sure you are a great person- obviously, you would have to be to find something positive about a person attacking a person who can't defend themselves. However, how I was before isn't the issue. The issue here, is what I've stated.
I myself will stop talking about this, however, I felt I had to address the issues you raised.
Mark my words. More and more people are being born on the spectrum as we draw a breath. They will most likely take over an entire generation. It's time people started showing more compassion and understanding towards them.
You are forgettiing that this is a board for Harvest Moon, right?Good.If you want to pick a fight with someone, then PM them.
On topic:Aww, man that sucks!D8 Hopefully, you'll start over, and you might get better off!But remember, it's only a game!If you need comforting, come with meeeeeee!8D
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Devstorm wrote:Chime9, I feel for you. That sucks, all that hard work gone.
I also agree that it sounds as if you really need to set some boundaries in your home. I don't know what your mom is doing so I can't comment on that, but I really think you should sit down with her and tell her that this can't go on. That you're tired of having over 200 bucks worth of your stuff getting taken away. That you want to be able to lock your room, or your stuff away and you want her help making 'no' stick with your sister. Four year olds can be caught to honor that word, so can autistic kids.
Also tell her that there is a good chance someone is taking advantage of your sister's condition to get free stuff from your house. Cause it sounds as if someone's been really greedy there. I'm surprised you still have your DS. Tell your mom that your sister's friends might even convince your sister to start taking money from your mom's purse or whatnot, and see if she can put a lid on this 'giving stuff to people' business. Your sister doesn't need to give stuff away to have friends.
But yeah, definitely start putting things away in a lockbox, and hiding it. And keep the key with you at all times!
wait... no not me xD Iron thorn made the same mistake.
I have a little sister, but she doesn't steal my stuff... well not most of the time.
As another parent of an Autistic child I can see both sides of this.
Now obviously your sister is given very loose rules and allowed to get away with almost anything. And I have no doubt that if she was not diagnosed with Autism(even a mild form) she would not be alowed to get away with much. Trust me when I say that those on the spectrum are VERY intellegent and cunning.
I am very sorry that your game was stolen especially since it means so much to you.
I would say call the parents of the person it was leant to and ask for it back. Here are some guidlines as parents of such children are VERY sensitive to any critisizm going toards their children (as you have seen):
-DO NOT yell
-DO NOT accuse your sister
-DO ask politely
-DO explain that it was leant to their child without permission
-DO mention brielfly and ONCE that it was a gift from a very special person to you
You might want to secure a way to get the game back that does NOT include their child giving it to your sister to give back to you.
And please remember that these parents deal with problems with their child every second of the day... and usually its in the form of accusations. A kind voice and someone being polite and considerate goes a long way.
Much of this thread hasn't been on topic but it has been informative. I hope the one whose game was taken by her sister considers some of the ideas seriously.
venus_gal1 wrote:omg thats horrible, i have been around autistic kids before, and I'm sorry but i absouluty hate them, and i'm sorry but to me they are the worst. Besides the kid i was around was a total jerk, too. Bleh, but i hope you at least get a new game, if it will make you feel any better.
F U MY COUSIN IS AUTISTIC AND HE IS ONLY 3 YEARS OLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DIE SON OF A COW
momofanautistic - you missed my point entirely, and the whole point of it was to try to help you and your cause
ever heard of the phrase 'you attract more flys with honey then vinager' how do you expect people to tolerate and show compassion when you dont show it to them first, dont you think they'd be able to feel more if they weren't thrown on the defense, all you're doing is pushing the wall further and further up with your own hate
i never said alot of things you imply in your message but one i'd really like to say is i didnt say 'be more tolerant' i said 'be more proactive and do it in a manner that will do some real good' (if someone were trying to make a point to you and called you a fool and questioned your intelligence, morals and such like that what would you do? you'd try to defend yourself weither the other person is right or wrong and you would probably shut a good portion of your listening off and/or try to get out of the situation altogether) just because you're right does not give you any right to put others down
fishie if you would like to continue this inappropriate conversation please get an account so we can talk over pm, with this post i just had to make my previous one clear so you didn't get the wrong idea of what i was saying
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venus_gal1 wrote:omg thats horrible, i have been around autistic kids before, and I'm sorry but i absouluty hate them, and i'm sorry but to me they are the worst. Besides the kid i was around was a total jerk, too. Bleh, but i hope you at least get a new game, if it will make you feel any better.
As the mother of an autistic child, I have to tell you I'm horrified and appalled at your total ignorance.
It makes me wonder: my son rides the short bus, but your total lack of compassion, intelligence, and understanding makes me think that perhaps the school district got it wrong.
I also wonder at the intelligence of your parents raising such a fool.
I can go on and tell you many more things, but I'd be wasting my breath. Bottom line here, is, before you shoot off your mouth think about what you say. Thank you.
Maybe the person has had a bad experience with autistic children.
Calm down a tad.
skye's girl wrote:who r u telling to calm down!!!!!!!!!!!!!! huh u no what f u u son of a cow!!!!!!!!
yet another person who does their cause no good oO;; why not say 'i'm a bit offended by this... my cousin is autistic and 3 years of age and is a good boy. he has his problems to deal with but not all autistic kids are bad'
but no, we must throw hate around more and more...
not to mention its against the rules to attack people on the boards like that so stop it
Nakir wrote:;____;
I went to happily play my HMDSC Game today, and, I rubbed the top of my DS Where the DS game goes, and I noticed the slot was Empty. I quickly ran back to my room and ripped apart my room looking for it. Then, I ran outside. I knew right then and there my Sister(She has a mild form of Autisim) Stole it. I yelled at her to give my precious game back, and she said she didnt have it, and started crying. After she went inside, and went to her room, I walked in and pulled the old "All you have to do is tell me where it is. I wont be mad, I just want to know what you did with it." trick. She started telling me how she wanted to play my DS This morning, and I interuppted angirly and shouted "TELL ME WHERE IT IS" She went on again. "JUST TELL ME WHERE IT IS!" I shouted. My mom burst out of the room and said to my sister "You'd better tell us where that game is now, Chloe." So, she told us that she let a kid borrow my game--MY PRECIOUS HMDSC Game I got from my boyfriend before he left for Arizona. I was devastated. Then, I was told my mom's boyfriend was going out to Gamestop to buy me a new HMDSC Game. I didnt WANT Another HMDSC Game. I wanted the one I got Specially from my Boyfriend. And I only needed one more Sprite before I could marry Marlin. DD:
*Pretends to punch your sister*
OMG! HOW COULD SHE BE SO MEAN?????????????????????
skye's girl wrote: srry im just protective of my cuz srry
no no its a good thing to love your cousin so much, absolutely wonderful, but attacking people is not going to help him, and if you were to show maturity and show people a different side to the matter that they maybe werent aware of you'd teach tolerance and compassion and that would help everybody (including your cousin, you, the person you just told and people that person may run into down the road)
instead of hitting people in the head with a brick ^^ though satisfying, it would just make the cause look bad (if ya know what i mean and in this case the brick was words)
i sound like a hippie 'love' 'peace' and stuff lol
srry im just protective of my cuz srry 
